Wow, we’re already mid-way through January! How did that happen?

So, I’ve been asked by several clients recently why they seem to go in and out of happiness. They wonder why they can’t just stay happy all the time. My reply has to do with hot tubs and lifting heavy weights. (Huh? I know… just keep reading…)

I’ll try to keep this as short as possible, but we all know how wordy I get when I’m excited about a particular subject, right? 🙂

First of all, even if you think you always want to stay happy, you don’t. Happy would get really boring really fast if you were always in that state of mind. What you want is to enjoy happiness when you’re feeling it, and then you want something different so you can stay interested, engaged, and in a constant growth process.

Here’s where hot tubs come in. Imagine you just slid into a steamy hot tub on a cool evening, accompanied by a glass of wine and a tasty dish (whether some kind of food or a love interest is up to you). You think to yourself, “I could just stay here forever! This feels amazing!”

And then, shortly thereafter, the water suddenly feels tepid, the skin on your fingers and toes is all wrinkly, and you’re bored senseless. You want to do something different… you’re ready to get out of that “perfect situation.”

Obviously this applies to every aspect of our lives, not just hot tub evenings, right? Everything we experience starts to feel kinda “meh” when we don’t allow it to change.

Ok, that’s part one.

And part two is that it’s super important to practice going out of – and back into – alignment with what you want. That’s where the squatting analogy comes in… you won’t get stronger by never lifting weights (oh and by the way, that is me in the picture above from a few years back at CrossFit Asheville). And you won’t get stronger by getting to the bottom (or the top) of a strength-building activity, but then never standing up and putting the weights down. You have to make the process of getting stronger the priority… not the end result. Because there’s always more strength (and happiness) to be had.

So, in order to get where you want to go, you have to:

  1. enjoy where you are in the moment and then be willing – and open – to change (hot tub, y’all!).
  2. focus more on the journey, the practice, the habit, the learning – then the end result (get your squat on!).

Make sense? Let me know what you think in the comments below…