I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard people tell me that they feel lost, unsure, cloudy, scared. That they wish that our lives came with an owners manual. That there was some sort of map that would show them exactly how to get to what they want.
And when I reply that they do have exactly that guidance system they’re so desiring, I am inevitably met with blank stares.
So, I thought I’d talk today about the GPS that you possess already. I sometimes refer to it as your Internal Navigation System (INS) and it’s pretty cool… downright awesome, in my opinion!
And our INS really does work just like the GPS on our smartphones. Here’s what I mean:
Let’s say you live in New York and you want to visit Florida in the winter. (Goodbye frigid temps and snowstorms! Hello, white sand beaches and year-round riding!) So you set your smartphone’s GPS to Florida and start heading south.
Some ways down the road, you realize you’re running low on gas, so you exit the highway to get fuel (for both you and your vehicle) and while stopped, you turn off your GPS. Then you get back on the highway, before remembering to turn the GPS back on. Once you do so, your GPS lady starts in on you about finding the next legal u-turn or taking the next exit or recalculating or whatever. She gets more insistent the more you ignore her pleas. You are certain you’re going the right direction and figure she’s just a little turned around and will figure it out sooner or later.
Eventually, you realize that you are – in fact – heading back toward New York! Now, you figure you’ve already gone this far and dammit, why does this always happen to you, and how frustrating that you’ve added so much time to your trip, etc. etc. etc.
Yet, you still haven’t turned your car around to go toward Florida again! Pretty soon, you find yourself in Canada (still complaining, still angry, still bitter… but now feeling much worse than you were when you first realized you were going the wrong way).
If only you had just turned back around and headed south when you first started hearing your GPS lady hollering at you!
And here’s the same story with INS instead of GPS:
Let’s say you feel pretty content in your life, but you really want to feel warmer, happier, more alive, more excited, more in love. (Goodbye getting-by! Hello, yahoo!) So you set out to change things up… maybe you quit your job or break up with your ho-hum boyfriend and you’re feeling like you’re really getting somewhere.
Some ways down the road, you realize you’ve been burning the candle at both ends and are now running on empty (emotionally speaking, of course), so you take a break from searching for your next big career move or romantic partner by basically lounging around the house in your PJs, eating Pirate’s Booty and watching Ellen reruns on the couch. Once you’ve “recharged” you get back on the road you felt you were on, before remembering to tune back into your INS. All of a sudden, you realize you’re gradually getting more moody, anxious, agitated. You chalk it up to hormones and justify your angry outbursts as par for the course.
Eventually, you realize that you are – in fact – feeling worse than when you started! Now, you figure you’ve already gone this far and dammit, why does this always happen to you, and how frustrating that you’ve added so much time in this state of mind without getting that new job or that awesome partnership, etc. etc. etc.
Yet, you still haven’t shifted the way you’re thinking (and therefore, feeling) so you can experience all those things you’re wanting so badly! Pretty soon, you find yourself in a deep depression (still complaining, still angry, still bitter… but now feeling much worse than you were when you first realized you were going the wrong way).
If only you had just turned back around and headed in the direction of what you want to feel when you first started hearing your INS voice hollering at you!
See what I’m getting at here?
And really, it’s so easy once you practice for a while. Your emotions – the way you feel – will guide you to what you want to experience. In order to get there, you have to heed their guidance, instead of feeling powerless and just going with the next thought that happens to pop into your head.
So, head to the comments section below and let me know what your INS is telling you about where you are on your journey now, and how you can better use this incredible tool to get back on the loving life superhighway!